So I’m Jewish and today I went back to my temple for the first time in a while because my little sister was graduating from Hebrew school…
And I realized I had completely forgotten how amazingly queer-friendly it is. When I had my bat mitzvah they let me have a big portion of my speech be me saying I don’t agree with the Torah/bible saying being gay is wrong, they have a lesbian rabbi, an all genders bathrooms and a rainbow flag outside the congregation.
Just wanted to give an example of a religious institution doing something right :)
DO NOT DISMISS A SOMETHING A CHILD IS PROUD OF. LOOK AT IT. POINT SOMETHING OUT AND TELL THEM YOU LOVE IT. IF A CHILD DRAWS YOU A RAINBOW, TELL THEM YOU LOVE HOW IT HAS RED. THEY WILL THINK “WOW. IT DOES HAVE RED. THEY LOVE HOW I PUT RED IN IT. I PUT RED IN IT. AND THEY NOTICED.” MAKE SURE YOUR CHILD KNOWS YOU ARE PROUD OF THEM.
The reason why the room was pink was because on black and white film, hues of red become dark shades of black. Pink is the perfect balance to give it that dark creepy grey.
A related fun fact: while old black and white film was under-sensitive to reds, it was correspondingly over-sensitive to greens. Actors whose characters were meant to have unnaturally pale complexions - like Morticia Addams - would often take advantage of this by wearing makeup with a green base tint in order to make their faces “pop”. This is where the modern trope of cartoon vampires having green skin comes from.
These are some fun fucking facts
One crowning moment of awesome: The Woman who Walked the Earth.
published with permission since I have a million of these asks
and this was the one that got eaten when i was like two sentences away from done so forgive me you are getting the way short version because im SO MAD it got eaten
question: when was ward abused?
from ages 0-15 he was abused by his family (important viewing: 1, 2), both by his older brother and by his parents. it is seen most obviously in episodes 1x03 (“I had to learn to protect us”), 1x08 (flashbacks to the well), and 1x19 (“[My parents] were worse”)
special note of ep 15, when ward tries to appease may by letting her hit him again. this is how grant ward has been trained to interact with people. when they are angry, let them beat you until they aren’t angry anymore.
which is really fucking upsetting
at age 15ish he was shipped off to military school, until something happened that made him tear off back home and try to burn his family home down. garrett found him in prison and gave ward the option to swap one abuser for another
devil that you don’t, right
he was promptly abandoned in the woods (isolation - classic abuse, ensures that Ward is entirely dependent on Garrett for validation and supplies, especially if ward is wanted by the system and has no family to take him in)
after shield hogwarts, garrett took over Ward’s training as his S.O., effectively controlling ward’s interactions and missions, and ensuring that ward was not out of his sight long enough to shake his conditioning
this conditioning becomes super evident in the last several episodes, when ward allows garrett to beat the shit out of him (the level of nonverbal communication in that exchange makes it hard for me to believe thats the first time), when garrett is constantly turning ward’s legitimate anger back toward garrett (“can’t you just be happy for me” etc etc etc), literally lets ward die for information, uses emotional manipulation to get ward back into line (“i am not that scared kid anymore”) etc etc etc
take special notice of ward’s desperate search for orders and how lost he is without them. he has been trained to rely on garrett and no one else, and is, at this point, pmuch incapable of independent choices
he’s been trained to keep garrett happy
he literally doesnt know what he is without garrett (see 1x22 and ward’s convos with raina)
as for the rape, im copy-pasting from here about episode 15
First off, remember that sex is rape whenever one member (regardless of gender) does not or is unable to consent to the sexual act. This includes altered states of consciousness, like when one person is drunk or drugged or, in science fiction, somehow mind-controlled.
Because that person is not fully in control of their faculties, they cannot consent and the sexual act is rape.
In episode fifteen, Lorelei puts Grant Ward under her controlling love spell and has sex with him. Because he does not possess the ability to say yes or no, it is rape.
The scary thing is not just that it happened. It’s that it happened onscreen, was presented as a sexy and hot thing, and was never acknowledged again.
hopefully that answers your questions
and thanks, darling, for your permission to publish
also please note that some of the links i’ve directed you to are written sort of…. angrily. please do not take these posts personally, as they were written at the height of the grant ward shitstorm when we were all getting dozens of hateful anons a day accusing us of being nazis and rapists and puppykillers. also i got at least three death threats so it was just a fun time all around. as im sure you can imagine, it was not the calmest environment in which to meta. forgive the heightened emotions.
On the bright side, we all survived, and thanks to our lord and savior sdcc 2014, we have cast and writer confirmation that we were right and that grant ward did not shoot the dog
so again, please dont be offended by the tone of the posts, and hopefully things make more sense for you now. feel free to sit back and enjoy what is sure to be an excruciating and enjoyable redemption arc
Damn straight there’s a Bisexual Agenda.
It’s to replace all cars with trained pterodactyls by 2025.
When people are abused and assaulted, it is like the doors to their souls slam shut. The goal of Joyful Heart is to let the light, and the life, back in—to banish the darkness and let the healing begin.
- Mariska Hargitay, Founder & President of the Joyful Heart Foundation
- See more at: http://joyfulheartfoundation.org/
"women shouldn’t have to wear makeup!"
"you don’t have to conform to society’s expectations of feminine aesthetics! "
"women who don’t wear makeup are better; i only like women who look good without makeup; women who wear makeup are fake; etc."
ab. 1840 Franz Xaver Winterhalter - A Swiss Girl from Interlaken